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  • Kissing on the nose (written by Shan&Claude)

  • French Kissing (written by Shan&Claude)

  • Kissing techniques (written by Alex Robboy)

HTHGS: Kissing on the nose (written by Shan&Claude)

Ask The Colestocks
How do I go about kissing on the nose? TDM Arrah

Dear TDM,
Do you mean an Eskimo kiss?  Are you referring to the slang term for when people rub their noses together?  That involves two individuals rubbing their noses together.  Or do you mean kissing or tonguing the nose and nostrils?  Some people enjoy tonguing the nose and nostrils of another person.  To some people such behavior is quite intimate and shows a deep acceptance of the other person.  It is certainly not too different than rubbing tongues, lips, or hips together!  Anyway, we hope this helps answer your question. Have fun, The Colestocks

This tip was originally written by Shan & Claude Colestock

HTHGS: French Kissing (written by Shan & Claude)

Ask Shan & Claude,
I have read all the advice written and I am still at a loss. I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years (he has been my only boyfriend). And I still have been too shy to French kiss him or to even tell him I have never French kissed before. I am-in normal life an extremely shy person and only will go somewhere new if someone is with me, or try something new if someone thoroughly explains it to me. So my question being; can you please explain in detail how to French kiss (I read the articles on the site, but they didn't explain to me enough to be comfortable trying it). For example should my tongue be going in his mouth, should I just open my mouth, how should our tongues move together... and secondly how do I get over the shyness with my boyfriend (if it wasn’t for the shyness I would have just asked him to show me how-I have tried many times but couldn't do it). I would appreciate an answer as soon as possible, it is coming up on my anniversary, and I would really like to kiss him the way I feel about him. Thanks kt

Dear KT,
Well, we are glad you felt comfortable enough to ask us!  It is an indicator that you are losing some of those inhibitions that you described.  Maybe the Internet is a good way for you to get info and overcome some of that “extreme shyness?”  This question is a beautiful one.  It is beautiful because the kiss (for many people) is enveloped in such romance and intrigue and it is probability an art form!  We will do our best to describe it.  However, there are some things in life that are virtually indescribable.  How do you tell someone what an orange tastes like?  How do you describe what it feels like to run a five minute mile?  Some things must be experienced ­ so the first piece of advice we have is to simply try it ­ you can do it!!!  We also recommend you talk to a trusted friend and ask them about what technique they use or how they do it.  If you are lucky you may even get them to kiss you!    If that is out of the question we have heard that many people practice on their hand or on a pillow.

Do you kiss on the lips?  To us the beginning would begin there.  Kiss on the lips and let your tongue brush his lips.  He will most likely pick up on your cues.  If he doesn’t reciprocate you may need to put the tip of your tongue into his mouth.  This question is also very culture dependent ­ some cultures don’t “French” kiss, and some cultures practice kissing on trees or practice by putting little fish in their mouths!  It is much like dancing ­you take a step and they take a step.  It can be a wonderful dance of back-and-forth exchange that changes and alters every time.  It has a rhythm of its own.  How much you move your tongue and how deep you push it will be up to you ­ we can’t tell you that. 

If we did try to spell it out it would maybe pollute the dance!  We wouldn’t want you to think you weren’t doing it right!  Part of the fun and excitement is figuring it out with your partner and even laughing about stuff that didn’t go well.  You could suck each other’s tongues, you could have your tongues just barely touch, you could put his tongue in your mouth or vice versa, you could have your tongues meet out of your mouths or in the mouths.  There are many options ­ but don’t let them confuse you or overwhelm you ­ the main thing is just that you take the chance to experience and live the kiss - if it is something you really want to experience.  Sometimes it is hard to take risks.  But, we hope we have given you enough of a description that you feel okay with trying it ­ because that was what you asked right?

Lastly, we have to recommend you talk to him about it!  People who can’t talk about what they are doing sexually may not be ready for those behaviors ­ whether it is kissing or intercourse.  Open communication is your ally.  After 4 years we hope that you could discuss a kiss or we would be concerned that this person may not contribute to you feeling very comfortable.  If communication is out of the question we would recommend that you seek the help of a qualified couples or marriage counselor.  This may seem extreme to you ­over a kiss ­ but we promise that there will be many more conversations that must take place in your relationship that are far more difficult and awkward that this and a counselor may be able to help give you both the skills and comfort and permission to communicate about such issues.  Again, we are delighted that you asked us and we hope that we helped you.  Shan & Claude





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The Founder: "Alex" Caroline Robboy, LCSW, QSW, CAS
"Alex" Caroline Robboy is a certified sex therapist through the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists and an American Board Certified Sexologist. In addition, she is a clinical member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists and a member of the North American Society for Psychological Obstetrics and Gynecology.


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