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Personal Satisfaction
How To Have Good Sex, Inc.
HTHGS: Personal satisfaction
(written by Erin Black, BA)
Ask Erin,
I noticed that you specialize in personal satisfaction. . .I have a bit of a
dilemma, and I'm sort of embarrassed since I've never told anyone before. So
here it goes. . .I started pleasuring myself at a young age, so it was only
natural that I would move onto electronics a little earlier than most females.
Now I can't live without them. I have even gone so far as to get the panties
with everything built in so that I can pleasure myself at class and work without
anyone noticing. . .or so I thought. My geology prof asked me to wear them to a
meeting, how he noticed I don't know, and I can't say I mind, except for now he
has the remote during lectures. I can't contain myself anymore because I never
know when it's coming. I know the obvious answer is to stop wearing the panties,
but I just can't help myself. Please, any other ideas? Sincerely, Always cumming
in Atlanta
Dear Always Cumming in Atlanta,
First and foremost, I think a healthy decision would be to ask for the
remote back from your professor or stop wearing the panties to class. The
unexpected distraction cannot be good for your attention or your professor’s
attention to the class. Think about how your pleasure may be affecting other
people in a negative way and this may help you to refrain from wearing the
panties to class anymore. Self-pleasuring is fabulous but when it starts to
disrupt your life such as class or work then there could be a problem.
There are a number of things you
can do to help yourself out of this situation. You have already taken the first
step by talking about your problem. You can take this a step further by seeing a
sex therapist to talk about your concerns but if you are not ready for that step
there are things you can do privately.
It is a matter of will power to
break a habit that is disrupting your life. When you have the urge to masturbate
do something else instead – pick up a book and read, turn on the TV, go for a
walk, clean or anything you feel that will take your mind off masturbating. Try
cutting down to masturbating only at home and not at work or school. Or try
masturbating only a certain number of times a day, less than what you have been
doing. Slowly work your way to the point where you are only masturbating at home
twice a day or something that makes you feel like you are back in control of
your self-pleasuring. Breaking any habit is all about will power and the desire
to change.
In no way am I saying that
masturbating is bad. Masturbation is an excellent way to get to know your
body and what you like as well as a great way to release stress and help you
feel better about yourself. However, when masturbation becomes your whole world
and it disrupts your ability to function there is a problem.
Try some of the tips I listed
above, read up on the topic http://www.sextherapyinphiladelphia.com/sexual_self_help_books.htm
http://howtohavegoodsex.com/books.htm
or talk to a sex therapist http://www.sextherapyinphiladelphia.com
about your concerns. Remember that masturbation is healthy and wonderful but
maintaining control over your urges so that your life in school and work does
not suffer is also very important.
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