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Pain
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- Pain during sex
for a woman (Written by Yvonne Fulbright MS.Ed)
- Pain
during sex for a man (written by Yvonne Fulbright MS.Ed.)
- Pain
during sex (written
by other sexperts)
HTHGS:
Pain during sex for a woman (Written by Yvonne Fulbright MS.Ed)
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Yvonne,
I am an 18-year-old female college student. I recently tried to have
sex,
for the first time ever, with this guy and it hurt even before he was
all the way in so I had him stop. The kind of condoms he was using were
ribbed as well, I was wondering if the ribbed condoms made it hurt worse or the
fact that it was my first time? I would also like to ask about oral sex, I
never have given it before and I am quite concerned about it, are there any
risks of swallowing? Also, any tips on giving good head would be
appreciated.
Thanks,
Heather
Dear
Heather,
The pain you experienced during first intercourse is most likely due to it being
your first time, and not the condom. The
next time you try to have sex, however, try using a regular lubricated condom,
and have extra lubrication, like KY jelly, on hand to make the insertion of his
penis smoother and more comfortable.
You
have good reason to be concerned about oral sex.
In performing fellatio (oral sex on a man), a person puts him/herself at
risk for contracting a number of sexually transmitted infections, namely
gonorrhea, Chlamydia, herpes, and HIV. As
far as HIV goes, the risk in the transmission is based on any infected fluids
coming into contact with cuts, sores, and tears in the mouth (which could be due
to something as minor as brushing your teeth a couple of hours before giving
head). The risk of HIV transmission
with swallowing is not of as much concern because the stomach acid can kill the
virus. Yvonne K. Fulbright, MS.Ed.
HTHGS:
Pain during sex for a man (written by Yvonne Fulbright, MS.Ed.)
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Yvonne,
I am a 21 year old male who suffers considerable pain during sex. I am not
circumcised so the head of my penis is covered by foreskin most of the time.
However, when I have an erection the head becomes exposed and it is extremely
sensitive, tender and painful. As a kid I rarely exposed this part of the penis
so I believe this is the reason why it is now so sensitive.
What
can I do? About six months ago, the doctor told me to pull the foreskin back and
wash under there in the shower but this hasn't helped the problem at all. I want
to desensitize it as quickly as I can because it is painful and prevents me from
having sex. What is the quickest way I can desensitize it? How long will it
take? When can I start enjoying pain-free sex? Thanks for you help. It's a great
service.
Dyspareunia
is a condition men can experience during sex for a number of reasons, either
when they’re erect or as they ejaculate.
First, any lesion, due to unlubricated masturbation, rapid intercourse,
an STD, or an infection on the penis can make intercourse painful.
Second, conditions like Peyronie’s
disease – a curvature of the erect penis that causes scar tissue to build
up inside the penis so that the tissue doesn’t fill with blood - may also make
sex painful. Third, if you’re
uncircumcised, dyspareunia could be the result of a snugly fitting foreskin that
may painfully retract during sex. Other
reasons why you may experience pain during intercourse include exposure to
spermicide or an inflammation of the urethra or prostrate.
All of these conditions are medically treatable.
It would be best to check back with your doctor or to get a second
opinion about your condition.
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