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Sacrifice: an offering to propitiate,
obtain forgiveness, make amend, or gain favor. sacrificial/expiatory paraphilia: one of a
group of paraphilias characterized by triumph wrested developmentally from sexuoerotic
tragedy by means of a strategy that incorporates sinful lust into the lovemap on the
condition that it requires reparation or atonement by way of penance and sacrifice, since
it irrevocably defiles saintly love.
Sadism: a paraphilia of the sacrificial/expiatory type in which sexuoerotic
arousal and facilitation or attainment of orgasm are responsive to and contingent on [and
dependent upon] being the authority who variously imposes abuse, torture, punishment,
discipline, humiliation, obedience, and servitude (named after the Marquis de Sade,
1740-1814, French author and sadist). The reciprocal paraphilic condition is masochism.
Sadistic(adjective): the condition of being responsive or dependent on
punishing or humiliating one's partner in order to obtain erotic arousal and facilitate
orgasm. A person, especially a woman, may impersonate a sadist to oblige masochistic
partners for commercial gain.
Sadomasochism (S/M): sadism and masochism viewed as reciprocals or
counterparts of one another, and possibly alternating in the same person.
Sadomasochistic sacrifice: a paraphilic ritual in which sexuoerotic
fulfillment requires sadistic dominance in reciprocal interaction with masochistic
victimization, and/or vice versa, with or without mutual consent.
S and M (S/M): see sadism; masochism; sadomasochism.
Satellite: in genetics, a small mass attached to the end of the short arm of
some chromosomes.
Satyr: in Greek mythology, a woodland deity, usually depicted as having the
hind end of a hairy, hoofed goat and the head end of a horned man, an attendant of
Bacchus, fond of merriment and lechery.
Satyriasis: the compulsive condition in a male of recurrent sexual
intercourse with different female partners, promiscuously and without falling in love, but
not as a paid gigolo, hustler, or call boy. in psychiatry, a term loosely applied to a
male believed to have an insatiable sexual appetite. Synonym, Don Juanism. Antonym,
nymphomania. See also satyr.
Scat: paraphilic vernacular term for coprophilia [from Greek, skatos, dung]
Scatology (adjective, scatological): literally the study of excrement;
metaphorically, the study of verbal or graphic material legally defined as filthy or
obscene and pertaining to sexual rather than excremental activity. A scatophilic telephone
caller talks sexually in a manner that he expects will be offensive or shocking to a
female listener who does not know him. He is dependent on this maneuver to obtain erotic
arousal and facilitate or achieve orgasm.
Scoptolagnia: sexuoerotic gratification produced by watching people engaged
in sexual activity [from Greek, sopein, to view + lagneia, lust]. See also mixoscopia;
scoptophilia. scopophilia: see scoptophilia.
Scoptophilia (or scopophilia; adjective, scotophilic): a paraphilia of the
solicitational/ allurative type in which sexuoerotic arousal and facilitation or
attainment of orgasm are responsive to, and contingent on watching others engaging in
sexual activity, including sexual intercourse [from Greek, skopein, to view + -philia].
the condition in which a person is dependent on looking at sexual organs and watching
their coital performance in order to obtain erotic arousal and facilitate and achieve
orgasm. It is not surreptitious, as in voyeurism. The reciprocal paraphilic condition is
sometimes also referred to as scoptophilia; or by its own name, autagonistophilia.
Synonyms, mixophilia; mixoscopia; scopophilia. See also scoptolagnia; troilism
Satyr: in Greek mythology, a woodland deity, usually depicted as having the
hind end of a hairy, hoofed goat and the head end of a horned man, an attendant of
Bacchus, fond of merriment and lechery.
Satyriasis: in psychiatry, a term loosely applied to a male believed to have
an insatiable sexual appetite. See also satyr; nymphomania.
Schema (plural, schemas or schemata): a plan, outline, or arrangement, which
may be mental as well as physical [from Greek, schenza, form, shape].
Schizophrenia: a major mental illness or psychosis characterized primarily,
though not exclusively, by disordered thinking, ideation, and logic [from Greek, schizein,
to divide + phren, mind]. Etymologically it means divided mentation. Colloquially it is
erroneously used to mean split personality or dual personality. See also fugue; multiple
personality.
Scrotum (adjective, scrotal): the bag or sac that hangs below the penis and
houses the testicles or balls. See orchidectomy. secret vice: masturbation. Synonyms,
self-abuse; self-pollution; solitary vice; autoeroticism. Antonym, social vice.
Secular law: law under the control of the judiciary, not the church. See
also canon law. self-isolation: phobic withdrawal from social interaction. serendipitous:
discovered or recognized by chance, often in the course of another undertaking, and not as
a result of organized planning.
Sensate focus: a term introduced by Masters and Johnson to refer to the
procedure in sex therapy whereby each partner in turn explores the sensory responsivity of
the other, especially through the sense of touch, as in fondling, and stopping short of
penovaginal intercourse. serial killing: See erotophonophilia.
Serotonin: an indolamine that is active as a neurotransmitter substance in
the brain essential to brain functioning. On sexual pathways it acts as an inhibitor. See
also dopamine; indolamine; catecholamine; biogenic amine.
Sex (noun.): one's personal and reproductive status as male or female, or
uncertain, as declared on the basis of the external genitalia. Also, a vernacular synonym
for genital interaction, as in the expression, to have sex.
Sex adjunctive: characteristic of male/female differences that are tertiary
or subsidiary to sex-derivative, secondary differences, and are only peripherally related
to sex-hormonal differences with respect to the division of labor between the sexes.
Sex adventitious: characteristic of male/female differences that are
quaternary or subsidiary to sex-adjunctive, tertiary differences, and are more or less
fortuitously a product of cultural history with respect to the division of power between
the sexes.
Sexaholics Anonymous: analogously to Alcoholics Anonymous, a network of
self-help therapy groups for people with a particular sexual compulsion or addiction.
Sex chromatin: a spot that shows up when stained on the nucleus of cells
taken from mammalian females, but not males, and is attributed to the inactivated second X
chromosome; it is also called the Barr body (named after Murray L. Barr, 1908-).
Sex derivative: characteristic of male/female differences that are secondary
or subsidiary to sex-irreducible, primary differences, and are for the most part under the
influence of sex hormones.
Sex irreducible: characteristic of male/female differences that are primary
and nontransferable between male and female, namely, male impregnation and female
ovulation, menstruation, gestation, and lactation.
Sexaholics Anonymous: analogous to Alcoholics Anonymous, a network of
self-help therapy groups for people with a particular sexual compulsion or addiction.
Sexing-stealing-lying syndrome: a syndrome in which a forbidden or illicit
sexual activity coexists with kleptomanic stealing, as in shoplifting, which is not per se
erotic, and with confabulatory deception or pseudologia fantastica (fantastic or
fictitious logic).
Sexism: "Discrimination or disapproval directed at people because of
their sex is called 'sexism,' just as discrimination against people because of their race
is called 'racism'. Usually sexism is based on the belief that a person's sex, whether
male of female, would interfere with their performance of certain social roles, such as an
occupation or a position of importance in a corporation or a profession or a church. Thus,
gatekeepers - the people who hold power in a society or an institution - often believe
that women or men cannot and should not do certain work because their sex gives them
incapacitites that make them unable to perform as expected or because others in the
society would be angry or uncomfortable at finding them in certain jobs. Women have
encountered sexism when denied jobs as supervisors or executives. Men have encountered
sexsim when school directors refused to hire them as nursey school teachers or airlines
excluded them from jobs as flight attendants. (From Dr. Ruth's Encyclopedia of Sex)
Sexist: See Sexism
Sexology: the body of knowledge that comprises the science of sex, or, more
precisely, the science of the differentiation and dimorphism of sex and of the
erotic/sexual pairbonding of partners. Its primary data are behavioropsychological and
somatic, and its primary organs are the genitalia, the skin, and the brain. The scientific
subdivisions of sexology are genetic, morphologic, hormonal, neurohormonal,
neuroanatomical, neurochemical, pharmacological, behavioral, sociocultural,
conceptive-contraceptive, gestational-parturitional, and parental sexology. The life-span
subdivisions of sexology are embryonal-fetal, infantile, child, pubertal, adolescent,
adult, and gerontal [geriatric] sexology. See also sexosophy.
Sexophobia (adjective, sexophobic): dread or fear of the sex organs and of
whatever pertains to them [from sex + Greek, phobos, fear or fright].
Sexosophy: the body of knowledge that compromises the philosophy,
principles, and knowledge that people have about their own personally experienced
eroticism and sexuality and that of other people, singly and collectively. It includes
values, personal and shared, and it encompasses culturally transmitted value systems. Its
subdivisions are historical, regional, ethnic, religious, and developmental or life span.
See also sexology.
Sex roles: specifically, patterns of behavior and thought that are related
to the sex organs and procreation; generally, behavior and thought that is traditionally
or stereotypically classified or coded as typical of, or especially suited to, either one
sex or the other. Some sex roles are related to procreation, and some are not. See also
gender-identity/role ; G-I/R.
Sexual (noun, sexuality): pertaining to sex or, more particularly, the
stimulation, responsiveness, and functions of the sex organs either alone or with one or
more partners. See also erotic.
Sexual addiction: compulsively frequent reiteration of highly ritualized
usage of the sex organs, under conditions of extreme specificity. The addiction is not to
sex, generically, but to a particular animate or inanimate sexuoerotic stimulus, or type
of stimulus, that is incorporated into the ritual activity. The activity itself may or may
not qualify as paraphilic. The analogue of sexual addiction to a given stimulus is
drinking addiction to alcohol, from which the concept derives. See also Sexaholics
Anonymous.
Sexual drive: the personal and subjective desire or feeling of readiness to
have an erotosexual experience. It cannot be measured directly.
Sexuality (adjective, sexual): the personal experience and manifest
expression of one's status as male or female, especially as it relates to the genital
organs, pair-bondedness, and reproduction. See also eroticism.
Sexually dimorphic nucleus: in the preoptic area (SDN: POA) or region of the
hypothalamus, a group of cells so named (by Roger Gorski) because it is smaller in females
than males.
Sexual rehearsal play: motions and positions observable in human and other
primate infantile and juvenile play, such as pelvic thrusting and presenting, and coital
positioning, that are components of, and prerequisites to healthy sexuoreotic maturity in
human and other primates. Synonymns, sexuerotic and erotosexual rehearsal play.
Sexuoerotic: the sexual and the erotic experienced as a unity, with more
emphasis on sexual behavior than erotic imagery. See also erotic; erotosexual; sexual.
Sexuoerotic body image fixation: A disorder of the solicitational and
allurative strategem. The personal and private recognition of the locations and functions
of the sexuoerotic organs or regions of one's body upon which is superimposed in a highly
idiosyncratic and nonconfirmable way a retrospective projection of how they are in the
process of undergoing change, or should be changed. A sexuoerotic body image fixation may
be benign as, for example, to have sexually significant body parts ornamentally tattooed
or pierced; or it may be not benign, as for example to become a eunuch by genital
self-amputation, of which the fortuitous outcome may be to bleed to death.
Shaman (adjective, shamanistic): a priestly healer and mediating agent of
the spirit world.
Sickle-cell disease: a genetically transmitted form of anemia, characterized
by sickle-shaped red blood cells and abnormal hemogoblin.
Sinus: a hollow cavity, sac, pouch, or opening, such as urogenital sinus.
Sissy boy: a vernacular term applied to a boy whose developmental
differentiation of gender-identity/role (G-I/R) is in variable degree discordant with the
evidence of his genital morphology. See also tomboy.
Sisyphus: in Greek mythology, a crafty, greedy King of Corinth who was
condemned in the underworld to roll uphill a huge stone which constantly rolled back
downhill instead of going over the top.
Slave: sadomasochistic vernacular term for the masochistic partner whose
role is one of total subservience and obedience. Antonyms, master; dominatrix. sleeping
princess (or prince)
Syndrome: see somnophilia.
Social distancing: absence of sociable approach or response to other people
that is phobic rather than depressive, catatonic, or autistic aloneness.
Social vice: promiscuous-sex, chiefly with prostitutes or hustlers. Antonym,
secret vice.
Solicitation: invitation; incitement.
Sodomy: a legally defined term variously applied to zoophilia, and to
mouth-genital or anal-genital contact between human beings, especially males [from the
Biblical city of Sodom].It is not a paraphilia Synonym, buggery.
Solicitational/allurative paraphilia: one of a group of paraphilias
characterized by triumph wrested developmentally from sexuoerotic tragedy by means of a
strategy that incorporates lust into the lovemap on the condition that an invitatory act
belonging to the preliminary or proceptive phase be substituted for the copulatory act of
the central or acceptive phase, thus ensuring that saintly love be not defiled by sinful
lust.
Solipsism: a principle or doctrine that the self knows only its own
experiences[from Latin, solus, alone + ipse, self]; (adjective, solipsistic): the concept
that the self is the only verifiable knowledge, or that knowing exists in private. Thus a
color-seeing person never knows what it is like to see the world as a color-blind person
sees it.
Somatic: pertaining to the cells and structures of the body, and their
function.
Somesthetic (noun, somesthetics): in sex therapy, treatment, treatment that
involves the skin senses as in touch, pressure (massage), hot/cold, wet/day, and sensuous
body-contact grooming.
Somatotropin: growth hormone; it is secreted by the pituitary gland.
Somnophilia: the sleeping princess syndrome, a paraphilia of the
marauding/predatory type in which erotic arousal and facilitation or attainment of orgasm
are responsive to and contingent on intruding on and awakening a sleeping stranger with
erotic caresses, including oral sex, not involving force or violence [from Latin, somnus,
sleep + -philia). There is no technical term for the reciprocal paraphilic condition of
being the recipient, which occurs more readily in fantasy than in actuality. See also
sleeping princess (or prince) syndrome; (adjective, somnophilic): the condition in which a
person is dependent on intruding upon and fondling a partner who is a stranger asleep, or
fantasying doing so, in order to obtain erotic arousal and facilitate or achieve orgasm.
Spermatorrhea: the term for ejaculation while asleep and having an
erotosexual dream, medically used in the era when this normal occurrence was falsely
classified as pathology. Synonym, wet dream.
Statistical norm: the standard of what is normal as defined by what the
middle 50 percent of a community represent in what they are, and in what they say and/or
do.
Statistics (adjective, statistical): systematic collection, classification,
and mathematical compilation of evidence or information with respect to its amount, range,
frequency, or prevalence.
Statutory rape: sexual intercourse with someone who, by legal statute, is
defined as unqualified to give consent, usually because of being underage; the law applies
even if the accused partner, a boy, is the younger of the pair, and was actually seduced
by the girl.
STD: sexually transmitted disease, including but not limited to contagious
genital infections.
Steroid hormones: a class of hormone biochemically constructed of the same
components of which fats (lipids) are made They include the hormones of the testis, ovary,
and adrenal cortex. See also peptide hormones.
Steroids (singular, steroid): the general or generic name for physiological
compounds comprising, among others, sex hormones and adrenocortical hormones, and other
body chemistries.
Stigmata: (singularstigma): signs, marks, or features that indicate special
fitness or suitability. Synonym, stigmas.
Stigmatic/eligibilic paraphilia: one of a group of paraphilias characterized
by triumph wrested developmentally from sexuoerotic tragedy by means of a strategy that
incorporates lust into the lovemap on the condition that the partner be, like a pagan
infidel, unqualified or ineligible to be a saint defiled.
Stigmatophilia: a paraphilia of the stigmatic/eligibilic type in which
sexuoerotic arousal and facilitation or attainment of orgasm are responsive to, and
contingent on a partner who has been tattooed, scarified, or pierced for the wearing of
gold jewelry (bars or rings), especially in the genital region [from Greek, stigma, mark +
-philia]. The same term applies to the reciprocal paraphilic condition in which the self
is similarly decorated .
Stimulus-response theory: in psychology, the theory that human responsivity
is determined by contingencies of reward and punishment in the external environment.
Stockholm syndrome: the name for the bond of attraction that sometimes
develops between abuser and abused, molester and molested, captor and captive, and in
particular between terrorist and hostage. The term stems from the recent case of a woman
held hostage at a bank in Stockholm, Sweden, who became so pairbondedly attached to one of
the robbers that she broke her engagement to her prehostage lover and remained faithful to
her captor during his prison term.
Stratagem: a strategy or plan that is circuitous and deceptive on the basis
of an artifice or ruse. subcutaneous: below the skin. subrogation: occupying the place of
another; substitution.
Succubus (plural, succubi): an evil spirit or demon that assumed the form of
a female and is supposed to lie under sleeping people, chiefly men, and to have sexual
intercourse with them. See also incubus.
Supramasculinize: to masculinize in excess. Synonym supermasculinize.
Antonym, inframasculinize.
Symbiosis (adjective, symbiotic): the dependence on one another's existence
of two dissimilar organisms that live in close proximity and interaction.
Sympathetic nervous system: pertaining to that part of the autonomic nervous
system which usually prepares the organism to deal more effectively with a situation of
strife or emergency, as in fight or flight, the functions of which contrast with or
reciprocate those of the parasympathetic system Paradoxically, the sympathetic system is
also responsible for the physiological phenomenon of orgasm and/or ejaculation, but not
sexual arousal. See also autonomic.nervous system; parasympathetic nervous system.
Symphorophilia: a paraphilia of the sacrificial/expiatory type in which
sexuoerotic arousal and facilitation or attainment of orgasm are responsive to and
contingent on stage-managing the possibility of a disaster, such as a conflagration or
traffic accident, and watching for it to happen [from Greek, Symphora, disaster + -philia]
The same term is applied to the reciprocal paraphilic condition in which the person
arranges to be at risk as a potential victim of arranged disaster.
Synapse: in the nervous system, the place where the fibers of neurons meet
[from Greek, synapsis, a conjunction or connection). syndrome: an unhealthy condition or
disease typified by a characteristic set of signs and symptoms [from Greek, syn-, with +
dramein, to run]; also, a regular and orderly concurrence of characteristics or practices.
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