An excellent lubrication is Astroglide. KY also has a water based
personal lubricant that is good...These products are fairly long lasting and
quite slippery...Don't be afraid to slather it on. They may become
sticky as they dry and need to be remoistened with saliva or water. (To
purchase lubricant, go to http://www.howtohavegoodsex.com/sex_toy.htm)
Avoid Vaseline petroleum jelly or lotions or baby oil.
Concerning your second question, there may be some
loss of vaginal tightness, particularly if she has had one or more babies.
Kegel exercises can be of help in strengthening the
muscles surrounding the vagina and increasing satisfaction for both you and
her. She can identify the correct muscle (pubbococcygeus or PC) by
sitting on the toilet with her legs apart and squeezing out
Teaspoonfuls of urine.... thatís her PC....
Once she has identified it, she can begin exercising
this muscle by contracting hard for a second and then releasing completely.
She should repeat this 10 times in a row to make up
one group of kegels (about 20 seconds worth). In a months time, she
should work up to 20 groups (7 min. total)...she can do this while sitting in
a car or bus, while talking on the phone, at work...no one will know what
she's up to.
Good luck and love each other well
Ronald Feintech, Ph.D.