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Penis Shape & Penis Size
How To Have Good Sex, Inc.

  • Penis sloped downward (Written by Shan&Claude)

  • Naturally larger penis (written by Shan&Claude

  • Increasing one’s penis size (written by Shan&Claude)

  • Full Erection (written by Shan & Claude)

  • Small Penis (written by Shan & Claude)

  • Penis Girth (written by Shan & Claude)

  • Hour glass effect (written by Shan & Claude)

  • Curved Penis (written by Shan & Claude)

  • Large Penis (written by Shan & Claude)

  • Small Penis (written by Shan & Claude)

  • Too large to be on top (written by Shan & Claude)

  • Information on penis shape and size (written by other sexperts)

HTHGS: Penis sloped downward

Ask Shan&Claude,
Do girls mind when a guy's penis in sloped downwards during his erection? Also, If I masturbated often as a teen, could that cause me problems later in life?

Dear downwards slope,
We can not speak for all girls!  HOWEVER, we can assure you that all girls are different.  Some may prefer an upward sloping penis, BUT some girls will prefer a downwards slope!   From what we have noticed it is usually the “owners” who are concerned about their penis size or length or slope!  Many women don’t seem to care nearly as much as the guys’ do!  In other words how you feel about your own penis is really the issue that is important! In regard to masturbation… the only problem that researchers have found associated with masturbation is that sometimes people who masturbate feel guilty.  Masturbation, self-pleasuring, is a wonderful way to be with yourself, learn what you enjoy, and celebrate being a sexual person.  There is also no risk of pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections!   You will not go blind, you won’t grow hair on your palms, you won’t go crazy, and you won’t run out of sperm.  There is no amount that is too little or too much. The most important thing ­ like with your penis ­ is how you feel about masturbation and your relationship with yourself.  Only if masturbation starts to interfere with your job or school (like getting fired for doing it on the job and so forth) or harms yourself or others is it a problem!

HTHGS: Naturally Larger

Ask Shan&Claude,
Can you tell me a safe, natural way to make my penis larger? Wanting to be larger

Dear Wanting to be larger,
We do not know of any that are "proven" to work. How do you feel about your current penis?  It may be important to examine your feelings of wanting a larger penis and how you envision life with a larger penis and so on. What would change and could you make that change now? Sorry, to answer your question, we do not know of any "natural and safe" ways that we could recommend. Shan&Claude


HTHGS: Increasing one’s penis size (written by Shan&Claude)

Ask Shan & Claude, 
Can you tell me a safe, natural way to make my penis larger? Wondering,

Dear Wondering,
We do not know of any that are "proven" to work. How do you feel about your current penis?  It may be important to examine your feelings of wanting a larger penis and how you envision life with a larger penis and so on. What would change and could you make that change now? Sorry, to answer your question, we do not know of any "natural and safe" ways that we could recommend.        Shan&Claude

HTHGS: Full erection (written by Shan & Claude)

Ask Shan & Claude,
I am man and in the last 2 months or so I have not been able to reach my full erection point I am able to cum, but the size is almost have what I am to do or see need help. Thanks a lot help me get back

Dear Get Back,
There are many suggestions offered on this site about erections ( Overall, we will tell you that as men age they generally experience times where they can’t get as “hard” as they could when they were younger.  Erections and hardness are a combination of your fantasies, excitement, your penis, your cholesterol and health (if your blood flow is healthy you will be able to have an erection and maintain it easier than someone with impeded or poor blood flow). Hopefully, this helps you understand why you may be experiencing less "stiff" erections.  As you get older, chances are that it will occur more frequently.  However, this does not at all mean you can't continue enjoying yourself!  Just because you aren't as hard as a rock doesn't mean "sex" shouldn't be fun.             Shan & Claude

HTHGS: Small Penis (written by Shan & Claude)

Ask Shannon & Claudette,
My name is T, I have a major problem.  Even though my partner gets her orgasm, I am not satisfied my penis size. My question is, How can I enlarge my penis? 

I have seen an enlarger at a sex store, does that work? Is there any type of advice I can receive concerning this topic?  I am very serious and concerned about my penis length.  Thank you again, and God bless you.  T

Dear T.M.O.
In our experience men seem more concerned with their penis length than women.

The penis “enlargers” you see in stores don’t really “work.”   They will not give you a larger penis.  They sometimes help people get an erection ­ but will not contribute to permanent penis enlargement (or they would be MUCH more popular!).  There are operations and prosthetics that can increase penis size if your size is really deeply concerning you.  For that you could check the Internet for resources and doctors.  It can be hard to come to terms with our body parts and who we are.  Many people suffer because they feel inadequate about "what they have."  We are sorry that you somehow feel "less" than others.  There are two other questions that we have answered similar to yours at this address: At the risk of sounding to "parental" your penis is unique and special and it is yours and we hope that you will someday be able to see the beauty of it. Shan & Claude

 HTHGS: Penis girth (written by Shan & Claude)

Ask Shan & Claude,
I know that many people say that it is not the size the main mast that matter but the motion of the ocean. I have had some embarrassing moment because of the size of my penis girth. I have had two of my ex-lover tell me that my penis was not thick enough. Considering that I have only been with four women, these comments have had a great impact on my male ego. I have asked my present love if she has a problem with the girth of my penis and she says no. But, I know that it does because she sometimes comment on the thickness of some of the porno stars that she sees on porno films. I don't understand why she can't be honest with me. I have tried to use those penis pump and it make my penis hurt if I leave it on too long. I have also tried over the counter blood circulation pill but all they do is give me an erecting when I really don't need to have one. That is, while I am at work, church, at a meeting, etc., and let me tell you it is totally embarrassing when you can't stand up after a meeting while surrounded by my coworkers. Do you know of any way that I can increase the girth of my penis? I don't think that the length is a problem because it is a little above average but the girth is a problem. Can you help me with my problem.

Dear Girth,
Because your girlfriend comments on the thickness a penis in a movie does not mean she doesn’t love yours.  For example you could notice some body part on a woman in a movie and it wouldn’t mean that you didn’t love your partner's part.  We can appreciate many things ­ even their differences.  You asked her if she had a problem with it and she said no.  It is obvious that the girth issue is in your thoughts.  We would recommend against using the penis pump ­ especially if you say that it hurts you.  It will not create any permanent changes ­ it is usually used to help men get erections ­ not as much of a permanent size enhancer.  If it is seriously concerning you there are surgical processes that could alter your girth.  There is also similar advise on the website.  Shan & Claude

  HTHGS: The hour glass effect (written by Shan & Claude)

Ask Shannon and Claudette,
I masturbated often as a teen and stopped when I became sexually active. Shortly after I stopped I began to realize that my penis looked a little odd. It seemed thinner and smaller when flaccid. My penis began to role over on its side, like if you looked at me from directly in front of me you'd see the side of my penis, and one last thing ever once and a while either when I go to the restroom or strip to take a shower I realize that my penis is an abnormal shape as in the middle of my base there is a big slope inward so it is thick at the base and as it goes up it caves in and then goes back up to the original thickness.

It doesn't appear this way all the time mainly when my crotch is sweaty from exercise, sports, etc or when I'm cold. But everything else is all the time, this is a concern for me because it is embarrassing and causes me to hesitate to take of my pants around people. What my question is, is will this correct itself naturally or should I do something?

Dear Concerned,
You need to know that you are not alone!  Many men have the “hourglass” effect.  We don’t believe there is a technical term for it ­ but it is totally normal!  The penis changes shape ­ more on some people and less on others.  How one masturbates may have a slight effect on how it curves over many years.  Some people are born with variations on angle, width, size and so forth.  There isn’t much that we know of that you could do to change the shape of your penis.  You may be able to stroke it with pressure in the other direction if you really believe it was your masturbation that altered the angle.  It would sort of be like a woman saying she didn’t like the size or shape of her breasts.  Did you quit masturbating because you started having intercourse with others?  Last time we checked you were “sexually active” well before you had intercourse ­ sexual with yourself! Masturbation is a healthy and wonderful way to celebrate and enjoy yourself. Shan & Claude

Letter to the editor,
I could not believe that I read that these sex experts told girth that his girth issue was all in his head. I do not believe that there is any set right or wrong size and width of a man's penis as every woman is different with her male preferences just as any man is with his female preferences (height, breast size, ect...). If it is important that his lover be satisfied with his penis size then he should ask her how she feels, which he has done already, and as long as their relationship is an open one and truthful, then girth could probably believe her. However I was completely offended with "It is obvious that the girth issue is in your thoughts". How a person sees himself or herself is what is most important. You can tell a skinny woman all day that she is not fat, but as long as she sees herself as fat, she always will be. If two men told me that my breasts weren't large enough then I would have some residual doubts as well. Obviously he has doubts that aren't easily overcome. Why not suggest that he try methods to come to accept his body the way it is (I'm sure sex experts have tips for this) and then precede with medical practices as a final solution?

HTHGS: Curved Penis (written by Shan & Claude)

Ask Shan & Claude,
Hi! I have a question, which I hope you two might be able to answer.  I'm seeing this guy and we've had sex a couple of times and while I normally enjoy penile-vaginal sex a great deal, I don't quite as much with him, partially due to the shape of his penis.  It curves upwards and hurts when it's in.  I know I'm not really tight, but I've never really felt pain like this before.  Do you have any suggestions as to what to do?  And is there a way I can suggest something to him without hurting his feelings or insulting him?  Thank you!!
-       Jo

Dear Jo ­
We would not recommend you do anything that is uncomfortable or causes you pain.  If you do decide to keep having intercourse you may be able to experiment with positions that are more comfortable along with telling him when it hurts, when it feels good, when it is too deep.  He probably doesn’t want you to silently endure any pain (and if he does ­ that is not good!).  Telling him how you feel and what feels good should not threaten him ­ it isn’t meant to be hurtful.  It is important to be assertive and honest or how will the situation change?  Hopefully, he respects honesty and recognizes that honesty is a wonderful and necessary quality to have in a healthy and pleasurable relationship.   Shan & Claude

HTHGS: Large Penis (written by Shan & Claude)


Ask Shan & Claude,

There's no other way to say it, but my lover has a very large penis, in both length and girth. I've always been a little on the small side, so the disproportion, while not excruciating, is very difficult to deal with. It's like I can't grip it enough with my vaginal walls to get a good stimulatory effect (i.e. I can't squeeze it enough to cum). And, if I'm on top, it hits my cervix and makes a popping sound and let me tell you, THAT is a little uncomfortable physically. Are there any techniques I can employ for getting around this situation? Thanks! *a*


Dear *a*,

        You could practice exercises that will help you relax and contract your vaginal walls (many techniques are explained on this website ­ dealing with this issue ­ specifically Kegel exercises).  You may find that “doggie style” (you on your hands and knees ­ with him penetrating you from behind may help.  Likewise, “spooning” (you on your side with him behind you).  It seems in some regard you are dealing with a physics problem ­ big penis ­ small person!  One idea that is sort of “out there” is that you could try to put some devise around his penis (at the base) so that when he thrusts he can only put a few inches of his penis in you.  For example if when he thrust this device hit your hips before his penis hit your cervix.  Sex isn’t a science and this “device” may not exist ­ but improvisation is fun and it may be as simple as putting a Boppy (a pillow shaped like a horseshoe found in Baby stores) on his hips to prevent full penetration. The Boppy pillow would probably work?  Take precautions in regard to your cervix because research is showing that continued thrusting on the cervix could increase the likelihood of cervical cancer and of getting a sexually transmitted infection ­ especially HPV/genital warts.  Sex should not hurt ­ it should be pleasurable.  Definitely take the time to communicate and be in touch with your pleasure and what it will take to avoid the discomfort.     Shan & Claude

HTHGS: Small Penis (written by Shan & Claude)

Ask Shan & Claude,
Me and my boyfriend had broken up for a couple of months, and during that time, I was dating and having sex with someone else that has a slightly bigger penis.  Now that my boyfriend and I are back together, I for some reason don't feel him as good as I used to. I am still attracted to him and all, but for some reason I can't seem to feel good when he's inside of me because I don't feel anything?  What happened? Please help me... I love this man to death, and I don't want this to come between what we have. Help!!!! 

Dear Help!!!!,
If the difference in penis size was “slightly bigger” we are surprised you noticed at all. Are you sure it is not your feelings that have changed? Maybe you view him and sex differently after having new life experiences? Only you know the answer to that. If you really love this man “to death” we are sure a “slightly smaller penis” would not get in the way of finding ways to pleasure one another! Hope that helps, Shan & Claude 

HTHGS: 6 inch dick (written by Shan & Claude)

 Ask Shan & Claude,
I have had sex once but it wasn't good on my part. I was told that I was too short and I was wide enough. How do I please women with a 6inch thick dick?

Dear person with a thick penis,
This sounds like the punch line of a joke by just showing up! It is truly not the length or the width. Sex is solo much more than just a penis thrusting into a vagina. Listen, it was your first time no one is a professional the first time out. We do not know anything about your partner but we would suggest that you consider getting a partner who may be a little more understanding or supportive. Shannon and Claudette






HTHGS: Too large to be on top (written by Shan & Claude, MS.ED)


Ask Shannon & Claude, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and his penis is much larger than what I am use to and I find it very difficult to be on top, I feel like when I am on top of him I don't know what to do, and mostly he does all the work and it makes me feel stupid, like I don't know how to move but I can, I just can't with his penis size, I totally want to please him, any suggestions on how I can move on top considering his penis size??? please help dayze

Dear Dayze,
There are many ways to please him ­ BUT you should be thinking about your pleasure and if it does not feel good DO NOT do it.  Take the time to communicate what is going on for you.  If he thinks it is okay that something hurts you ­ chances are he is not worth your time.  Take care of yourself,   Shan & Claude




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