How To Have Good Sex,
My husband and I both enjoy this website and the tips it provides. Recently we
have been experimenting with anal sex and such on me, but we are interested in
doing the same with him. The question we have is 1. do we need to buy special
anal probes for him, 2. do they have to be male specific? Also, should I
introduce anal pleasure while I am giving him a blow-job? I appreciate your help
Great questions! There are a variety of anal pleasuring devices!
Some are marketed for men and some are marketed for women but that is just
marketing. Use whatever appeals to you and him. There are things
that vibrate and butt plugs and dildos etc… There is a good book called Anal
Pleasure and Health and a great video called “Bend Over Boyfriend.” A
good website for you to checkout would be “goodvibes.com” Hope that
helps you and your partner have fun. Only he will be able to tell you if
he wants you to introduce anal pleasuring simultaneously with oral pleasuring
but it sounds like a good idea to us if he likes them both!
Have fun figuring it all
G-Spot stimulation via anal sex (Written by Shan&Claude)
Ask Shannon & Claude,
My question concerns g-spot stimulation via anal sex. I have read in several
places that the g-spot in women is more highly stimulated through anal sex due
to the thinner tissue walls in the rectum. This confuses me because my
recollection of the anatomical structure of the vagina tells me that the g-spot
is located on the "roof" of the vagina. However, in order for it to be
stimulated anally the g-spot would have to be on the "floor" of the
vagina. Is there something I'm missing here? Are there two g-spots, or is the
spongy tissue of the g-spot area actually circuitous around the vaginal area, or
is this a totally incorrect statement????
I have had anal sex with
women and they have had very powerful orgasms even without any kind of
accompanying clitoral or vaginal stimulation, but they say that orgasms through
g-spot stimulation in the vagina feels different to the orgasms achieved through
anal sex. Basically, I don't get it. Yours, M.
is very possible that with the penis or other penetrating(s) object that the
G-spot could still be stimulated. The
membranes are thin and in that area of the body there isn’t anything thick
(like a bone) separating the body parts.
The pressure can be felt and transmitted throughout the area.
Without anything in the vagina the penis or dildo could definitely put
“pressure” on the G-spot which could be very enjoyable to some women
– so much so that they orgasm. The
penis or toy would not necessarily have to be directly touching the G-spot.
Imagine if you got a massage under a down comforter.
You wouldn’t feel as much sensation during the massage – but you
would still feel generalized pressure – same thing here.
Also, remember that orgasms and pleasure are more in the mind than of the
body. Some people orgasm because of their thoughts and ideas –
not from direct stimulation to a particular body part.
Hope that helps, Shan & Claude
Anal sex (written by Shan & Claude)
Ask Shan & Claude,
My boyfriend and I want to have anal sex. We tried it once with lubrication, and
he told me to guide him because he did not want to hurt me, so he moved very
slowly. The pain was so bad and the stretching feeling was horrible. I went to
the bathroom, and I was bleeding a little. I know a lot of people do it a lot,
but was what happened to me normal? I really want to pleasure him by having anal
sex, will I eventually get used to the pain if I keep trying? Thank You
Dear wants anal sex to
Yes, what happened to you is normal. The anus is not self-lubricating like
the vagina. With practice it will get easier. You will learn to
relax better; your body will grow more accustomed to accommodating his penis.
Some suggestions are to have him use a lot of lubrication and loosen you up
first with his fingers or a sex toy like a small vibrator or a butt plug.
Also, some porn stars recommend giving yourself an enema beforehand because
there won’t be anything in the colon to get in the way. Slow and steady
should help. If it continues to make you bleed or cause you pain we would
advise you to stop even if you want to please him! Likewise, if you are
bleeding that is a way for you to contract any or all sexually transmitted
infections that he may or may not have. Make sure to use a latex condom or
get tested together or put methods in place that protects you from diseases and
viruses! I know you probably love him but this is your life and your
health. Look out for yourself there is only one you! Shan &
My boyfriend and I wanted to experience anal sex for the
first time and so tried it we used a lot of lube and he went really slow but it
seemed very uncomfortable and it hurt, I have heard from many friends that
it feels good but I have noticed when I tried it, it burned and it felt like I
was going to take a poop haha! is this normal? I do enjoy his finger inside it
while we have sex sometimes so I thought I would enjoy anal sex but it just
didn't feel right! any suggestions on how to make it feel better? dayze
If it hurts - it hurts! Your friends could enjoy a lot of things - that
doesn’t mean that YOU DO! It sounds like you did just about everything
right and it still hurt. If you were seriously dedicated to making “it
happen” you could try it some more practice makes perfect. But, some
people just never enjoy it even if they can do it! What you felt was
totally normal by the way. Keep up the good questions Shan &