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How To Have Good Sex, Inc.
HTHGS:
My penis went soft (written by Shan & Claude MS.Ed.)
Ask Shan & Claude,
I am a 17 yr old male and my girlfriend and I have decided to have sex but when
we were ready my penis went soft just as I was about to enter. the only foreplay
that I got was a hand job and kissing. I do not know whether that had nothing to
do with it. do I have a condition or something. I am not a virgin as I have had
sex with another girl about a year ago. I do not take any alcohol or drugs and
do not know what is wrong. please help
Dear please help,
We were just asked a similar question by another 17 year old. We are not
sure if you are the same individual or not. You have eliminated many
factors that sometimes contribute to erectile dysfunction (alcohol and other
drugs, that you have had “sex” before). This information tells us that
you can get an erection, but for some reason being with your partner
psychologically causes you to lose your erection. Some contributing
factors that generally contribute to loss of erection include performance
pressure, fear of something (getting caught, disease, pregnancy, against some of
the values you may have been raised with, issues about intimacy and love, etc). http://sexualhealth.com
is a website that may give you some additional feedback and help you explore
some of the psychological factors that may contribute to loss of erection during
sexual experiences. You may also want to check out http://www.sxetc.org
They are a fantastic resource, especially for folks under 18.
If
none of this helps you we encourage you to seek the help of a professional (like
a sex therapist) who has been trained and is comfortable with sexual issues.
There are also many answers from other sexperts regarding this subject on this
website.
Shan
& Claude
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