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 Blue Balls
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 HTHGS: Blue balls, (written Shan & Claude)

Ask Shan & Claude,
My name is Peter.  I have a problem. I'm 19 yrs old; I've only had sex with 3 or 4 different partners about 3 or 4 times each.  I've noticed something that happens every time I have sex. I just can't seem to get that knee shattering ejaculation that I got my 2nd time having sex.  Okay, let me try to make it as clear as possible.  I love sex.  I loved it before I had it and I want to do it all the time.  I used to and sometimes still masturbate 3 times a day some days and at least once everyday.  It would be unusual if I missed more than 1-2 days a week.  Seriously.   I always loved the female figure and sometimes even the males.  Well, not only did I do it for myself, but when I was with a partner, I went out of my way to make her orgasm at least once, but I didn't try to the point where I lost the great feeling for myself (Iím sure you know what I mean) anyway, I would go and exercise my PC every morning cause I love how hard it's gotten since and the way it stays hard after cumming so I can go at it again really quickly.  Well Because of it I can surely prolong my cum but sometimes I'll go so long that I WONíT cum and fuck, well blue balls really makes the night and next day shitty. I know it's not from stress because I'm totally stress free.  No worries.  The reason I write is because maybe it's a condition that can be helped.  I mean, don't get me wrong, the women love it that I can bring them around once or twice in one session because it feels great that they'll be smiling for a week and call me back but it hurts after like 40 minutes and I am exhausted.  I don't want to move but I still have to cum.  What wrong here.  Please help.  Oh ya, if I didn't mention it, I'm average weight for my age.  I don't smoke.  I drink an ounce of rye every morning to keep blood moving smoothly and I work out at the gym with a cardio section.  I'm totally fit.  Please let me know your opinion

 Dear guy who can last 40 minutes but doesnít orgasm. It sounds like you have a healthy relationship with yourself and enjoy yourself.  Good for you.  When women enter the picture we wonder if you are so focused on lasting and their pleasure if you are able to fully experience pleasure for yourself?  It is important to be sensitive to your partnerís needs ≠ but not at the exclusion of your own sensation and pleasure.  Feel your own pleasure and relax and enjoy! Shan & Claude



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