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HTHGS: Longer Pleasure for Men (Written by Erin Black)

Ask Erin,
I am a guy how can I make my pleasure longer?

Dear Guy,
Are you talking about pleasure longer than “normal” or do you feel that you have a problem such as premature ejaculation?  Do you want to make your pleasure longer during masturbation or intercourse? 

 To answer these questions will hopefully provide you with the information you need.  If you want to extend your pleasure farther than “normal” there are physical and mental exercises you can do to help with this.  I want to first explain why I put normal in quotes and emphasis the importance of medical attention or therapy for other problems. 

 Normal is different for every person and if you feel that you are normal and are looking to be superhuman in bed, ok.  It is a different matter altogether if you are dealing with premature ejaculation, for example.  If you feel that you have a physical problem with experiencing pleasure you should see a doctor as soon as you can.  Not all issues with premature ejaculation or other problems with short-term pleasure are physical but can be mental and a good sex therapist can help you work those out.  A few quick tips that you can try at home include checking out how you feel – stressed, anxious, embarrassed – all of these could make your pleasure a short-lived experience.  Also, there are exercises such as stopping and starting while masturbating or having sex to make you aware of your body and your physical reactions.  There are excellent books out there that walk you step by step through these exercises; Urge: Hot Secrets for Great Sex by Dr. Gabrielle Morrissey has a chapter on premature ejaculation and also erectile problems.  Also, this website recommends some great books you could also check out –

 Now to deal with the masturbation or intercourse question.  I can tell you the more you masturbate the more likely you will be to be comfortable with yourself and your body’s triggers, which can make intercourse better.  Knowing yourself is my best advice.  Listen to your body and how it responds to certain things.  You may find that in masturbation trying different hand motions such as twisting during a stroke while alternating hands is better than stroking up and down with one hand.  You may also want to explore other parts of your body such as your perineum, located between the base of your penis and your anus.  Also, some people enjoy stimulating their anus by inserting a finger or two and placing pressure on the side facing your stomach.  Once again it is all about your comfort level and what you find pleasing.  Exploration is fun and if you have a partner exploration can be really fun! 


Erin Black, BA



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"Alex" Caroline Robboy is a certified sex therapist through the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists and an American Board Certified Sexologist. In addition, she is a clinical member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists and a member of the North American Society for Psychological Obstetrics and Gynecology.


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